The mission of To Be and Become is to assist FarmHouse men in making conscious choices that affect their success. Determining how you can make an impact on your fraternity or campus can feel overwhelming. This three-day institute will equip you with the knowledge, skills and attitude that is needed to create positive change in your community.

Utilizing Andy Andrews’ novel, The Traveler’s Gift, brothers will explore seven decisions that determine personal success. Facilitated learning sessions and leadership challenges incorporate our central attributes – leadership, scholarship and fellowship – through independent reflection and purposeful social interactions with brothers.

Set in a retreat-style environment just outside of Kansas City, To Be and Become is a once in a lifetime opportunity for FarmHouse men. You’ll join other rising leaders from chapters across North America in an adventurous outdoor learning atmosphere that includes high and low ropes course elements, and team sports.


The 2021 retreat has been cancelled due to the pandemic. The 2022 retreat is planning to return to the Heartland Center in Parkville, Mo in May.

Those invited to apply and participate in To Be and Become are members that have joined within the last academic year. At least one man from every chapter and associate chapter will be selected to attend. Brothers are invited to apply online on or before April 15.

There is a registration fee of $150 to cover the cost of some expenses. The majority of participant costs – including travel, indoor lodging, meals, learning materials and adventure learning activities – are supported by the Fraternity and through the generous support of the FarmHouse Foundation.